Trying to win the love of your parents is hard.
When you find yourself in a painful, unresolved situation involving your parents, it’s hard to explain to others. You try to paint the whole picture of how bad it is, but somehow nobody wants to admit you suck unless you’re locked in a basement toilet until you’re 10. Instead, they’ll say, “No, they just don’t know how to show their love!” or “Oh, I’m sure they’re just trying their best.”
You will leave one day
So when you leave a family, you have to find a new family as I did. But I don’t want to romanticize because it takes time to find your dream family or family. During this formative period, there will be some minor issues. Dangerous situation. There are lows.You may end up wanting to talk to your parents about these things because it’s your nature. But I wouldn’t necessarily recommend it. People who live in a bubble of denial and shame have a really hard time getting shut down. They are designed to fend off any threat to their worldview. Instead of focusing on them, focus on your own belief system that got you here. It’s time to respect yourself, center on the people you love and trust, and bring those battered hot stoves to the edge of your life, where they belong. You can still love her in your own way. It’s okay to love what’s broken at a safe distance.
The importance of parental love.
Parental love is characterized by the warmth, affection, care, comfort, concern, care, support, acceptance, or simply love that a child may feel from a parent. Parental love can be felt when a parent kisses, hugs, praises, compliments, or says nice things to their children.
It is all about the relationship
The parent-child relationship is a lifelong study of what matters most in relationships. Through this relationship, we learn a lot about how we relate to our friends, colleagues, and life partners. More than any other formative experience, this relationship shapes the best and sometimes the worst of our adulthood. It is messy, complex, and divine. It’s worth all the effort to keep it going, especially during those difficult times.
You must keep things in your heart
Remember their love. From your perspective, your parents’ overreaction and persistent opposition may seem unwarranted and unreasonable. To be fair, some may be. However, it is almost certain that behind these actions is her fervent love for you. At some point, all parents fail to express love in the way their children need. Trust me, as parents, we also remember those moments with regret. But moments of poorly expressed love don’t mean love doesn’t exist.